Confidence Is Key: Developing the Crucial Traits of Confident People

Have you ever looked at a friend or colleague and wished you had their innate self-confidence? Their ability to believe in themselves and their abilities? Some people believe that confidence is natural – and for some people, it does come very naturally. But you can actually learn to be confident too, adopting the traits of confident people and building your self-esteem. You can ‘fake it while you make it’, as they say! By facing your negative thoughts head-on, and developing new, more positive thought patterns, you too can be one of those confident people that others wish they could emulate.
Victor-Kiefer Gerard
Business & Brand Development

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”  


Step One: Allow yourself to be vulnerable

This is perhaps the hardest step to become confident, but it’s the most important. You need to allow yourself to be vulnerable from time to time. We’re often taught never to show any weakness and to hide away our insecurities – but actually, the strongest and most confident people don’t have any problem with letting others know when they’re struggling, or they need help.

By allowing yourself to be vulnerable, you’re acknowledging the fact that any negative thoughts you have in your vulnerable moments can be used as fuel for your new, positive thoughts. You’ll also develop a sense of resilience, which is important – you’ll feel more comfortable stepping out of your comfort zone and, amazingly, your comfort zone will actually expand!

So our first piece of advice is to let yourself be vulnerable. Feel the fear, and do it anyway!

Step Two: Know the difference between confidence and ego

Being confident doesn’t necessarily mean being the centre of attention all the time – that’s more related to your ego. Confidence also doesn’t mean thinking highly of yourself – it’s more about knowing your strengths and weaknesses and accepting them entirely. Indeed, many of those who crave the limelight and want to be the centre of attention are actually lacking in confidence. They’re not comfortable in themselves, so they seek the validation of others. Real confidence is not needing to be in the spotlight all the time.

Step Three: Trust your own capabilities

Don’t give into the negative thoughts. They will arise from time to time, but it’s important not to let them eat away at the confidence you have carefully built. Have faith in your own abilities and skills. Understand that you may sometimes get things wrong – everyone makes mistakes – but trust that you will be able to pick yourself back up and try again, having learned a lesson. When someone criticizes you, take it as an opportunity to learn and grow. If you’ve been plagued with self-doubt, having trust in yourself can be tough – but with the right attitude, soon you’ll be feeling confident and capable, just as you should be

Confidence is key

Once you have these important traits, you’ll be seen as a confident person – and that can open exciting doors, not only in your career, but in your personal life too. Make sure to work on these confidence-boosters as often as you can to build your self-esteem for the future.

“Follow your dreams. I am not saying it’s going to be easy, but I am saying it’s going to be worth it.”

To sum up, we think it’s vital that everyone follows their dreams, rather than following the crowd. How else will you achieve true happiness and contentment if you’re not doing something that inspires you and ignites your passion every single day?


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